April 12, 2011

There are several aspects to the word forgiveness and it varies from individual to individual. How acute or critical the problem is another facet. The word ‘forgive’ is simply a less complex way of saying:

“Okay, you fucked up and I’m giving you another chance.” (Perhaps it was a drunken mistake and you feel it was insignificant.)

 “Let’s just let this shit go. No hard feelings, no remorse. I just don’t want to acknowledge you the next time I see you. Capish?” (I dislike you very much for what you did, stay the fuck away.)

“The pain you have brought to my heart is unbearable but in time my heart will heal.” (Making the best out of the most crucial and using time as your healer.)

“It was a dim-witted mistake, a huge misunderstanding.” (And sometimes it is).

And sometimes forgiving is the only remedy to bettering yourself. It means being able to look past the wounding moments and accepting them. Not for the benefit of others, but for your very own advantage. When you are able to look a person in the eyes, be in the same ambiance, and not feel one glitch of penitence towards them, you’ve already won. You’ve reconciled with yourself. It has zip zero, nada to do with them. But being used and misused is intolerable. The vast majority of situations I have dealt with usually end with “Capish?” Over the years from my son’s father to even some of my close friends, I let a lot of things slither by and eventually you have to cut the grass and let the snakes depart. Killing them would be to ghastly so make sure you maintain and continue nurturing that grass of yours. Snakes camouflage oh so well but there not invisible to the human eye. Peace.

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